Taking The Good With The Bad

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TAKING THE GOOD WITH THE BAD


Life is a series of ups and downs, as they say. There are peaks and troughs, swings and roundabouts etc. However you want to put it, we’re all riding the rollercoaster of life. Some parts are full of laughter, some parts are downright boring, some parts are utterly terrifying, and some parts are triple helix loop de loops which leave you without a clue who you are by the end of it! All together, they make for one uncertain ride, and sadly, my train just took a turn over a bumpy section.


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If you’ve been following my blog for a little while, you’ll have met Hector when he starred in a post last December. Otherwise, I’m sure you’ve seen him all over my Instagram stories! He’s my little furry best friend who I spend almost all of my time with. In fact, he’s curled up on my knee as I write this! He’s been there through thick and thin, and I love him with everything I have. If I’m completely honest, I’m probably one of those people who loves their dog a little too much. However, to me, he’s much, much more than a canine pal, which is why yesterday’s news was utterly heartbreaking for me.

I’ve been monitoring a lump in Hector’s belly for a while now. It’s very difficult to find so my parents weren’t convinced it was there at all. However, it got to the point where I was getting quite concerned, so they told me I could take him to the vet to put my mind at ease. When I explained to the vet what I thought I’d found, she was unsure. After a little bit of a tummy rub, she came to the conclusion that she wasn’t convinced there was nothing there. A shaved belly and an ultrasound later, and we were looking at a 6cm tumour on my little man’s spleen.

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Naturally, I was devastated. However, because I caught it this early, the prognosis is good. It doesn’t appear to have spread, and he’s an otherwise healthy and happy dog. He’s going in to have both the tumour and his spleen removed on Wednesday morning, and I’ve bought him a new bed, a doggy medical shirt and all the Lily’s Kitchen food he could want. Please keep your paws crossed that all goes well and that this will be the last treatment he’ll need! It might seem strange to be telling you this tale (tail, geddit?) alongside outfit photos from Tenerife, but really, this post isn’t about Hector, even though I could easily write a whole blog about him! Instead, this post is about taking the good with the bad.
 


Martha Jane Edwards wearing a straw boater with a black cami body, shredded denim shorts, a red bandana neck tie and a red crossbody bag with black cross strap sandals | marthajaneedwards.com
Martha Jane Edwards wearing a straw boater with a black cami body, shredded denim shorts, a red bandana neck tie and a red crossbody bag with black cross strap sandals | marthajaneedwards.com

TRUSTING IN SOMETHING BIGGER


As soon as the news sank in, I started to put things into perspective. I consider myself an atheist, but I’ve always been fascinated by the bigger picture. From obsessing over cosmology as a teenager to questioning why certain things happen, I’ve always been very reassured by the idea that something bigger is going on. It might be something as difficult as my scoliosis surgery or something as wonderful as my incredible surprise with Ellie Goulding, but whatever it is, some events are entirely out of our control. I know from suffering with anxiety that trying to control every single aspect of our lives is a miserable way to live, because realistically, only one thing in life is certain. We can’t predict the ups and the downs, but we can choose to ride them without fear, so when I’m feeling overwhelmed by life, the most helpful thing I can do is accept that things are happening for reasons as yet unknown to me, and let go.

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I usually try to offer some kind of advice in my posts, but today, I just wanted to write my thoughts onto the page. Do you believe in a bigger picture? Do you think it helps when taking the good with the bad?

 


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