3 Ways To Change Your Perspective

Martha Jane Edwards wearing a block colour graphic jumper with straight cropped jeans, a quilted crossbody bag, loafers, Ray-Ban Clubmasters and a bee pendant.


CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE, CHANGE YOUR LIFE


Last week was a strange one. After publishing my post on my goals for summer, something awful happened and, despite my planning, everything came to a halt. The terrible attack in Manchester at the start of the week was earth-shattering for me and many people I know, let alone for the victims and their families. For a few days, it felt like things would never be normal again, and like many others, I didn’t really know how to react. Though I published my new cover which I had recorded on Monday and shared my new post on the day after the attack, writing about distressed denim felt frivolous and indelicate. At the same time, it felt wrong to halt everything because of the senseless act of one coward, and so, like the rest of Britain, I got on with it. A few days later, we’re all adjusting, but it feels like people are very quick to forget as I see the same unimportant drama clog up my Twitter feed. We’re all guilty of complaining about #FirstWorldProblems from time to time, but when events like this occur, those #FirstWorldProblems become jarring. More than anything else, this devastating incident reminded me of the importance of perspective and gratitude, so before the tragedy becomes a distant memory, I wanted to write about 3 ways to change your perspective in light of the attack in Manchester.


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WHY CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE?


It has been scientifically proven that practising gratitude has a positive effect on our moods, so why do we all like to moan so much? Think about it for a second. What have you complained about in the last week that might have been unnecessary? It might have been the sticky heat or your local Tesco running out of Soleros. We’re all guilty of moaning about the small things from time to time, and I’m not here to tell you you’re a bad person for doing so. However, logic says that the more we complain about our lives, the less happy we feel about living them. I’m not saying you need to stop complaining all together, but I am going to encourage you to change your perspective in order to become a happier person. So how can you start?
 
 
Martha Jane Edwards wearing a block colour graphic jumper with straight cropped jeans, a quilted crossbody bag, loafers, Ray-Ban Clubmasters and a bee pendant.

Martha Jane Edwards wearing a block colour graphic jumper with straight cropped jeans, a quilted crossbody bag, loafers, Ray-Ban Clubmasters and a bee pendant.

THINK OF THE BIGGER PICTURE


Worrying about our own problems too much reflects the fact that we think of ourselves far more often than we think of others. It sounds harsh, but it’s being human. We all have our own private bubbles which we don’t really like to step outside of, but those bubbles prevent us from considering the bigger picture. Learning to project our troubles onto the canvas of the wider world helps us to minimalise our worries and sort what’s truly important from what we can forget about. Overcoming social anxiety taught me that living within my own consciousness all the time is not only miserable but exhausting, so when a problem arises, get into the habit of asking yourself: “What’s so bad about this? Is it really important enough that I’m going to let it affect my mood?’


STOP LIMITING YOURSELF


On a daily basis, we enforce restrictions on ourselves through the use of ‘shoulds’, ‘musts’ and ‘have tos’. Making demands of ourselves and others creates unhealthy expectations of how our lives should look, and therefore, disappointment follows when our demands and expectations aren’t met. However, by ridding ourselves of these demands, we can reduce the pressure on ourselves. For example, rather than saying ‘I have to do the washing up’, I could say ‘I like to do the washing up because I enjoy living in a clean environment’. That way, it won’t matter nearly as much if I don’t get round to doing the washing up, and it eliminates all the negative connotations I’ve attached to not doing the washing up (for example, ‘if I don’t do it, I’m lazy’) by using the words ‘have to’.

Martha Jane Edwards wearing a block colour graphic jumper with straight cropped jeans, a quilted crossbody bag, loafers, Ray-Ban Clubmasters and a bee pendant.
Martha Jane Edwards wearing a block colour graphic jumper with straight cropped jeans, a quilted crossbody bag, loafers, Ray-Ban Clubmasters and a bee pendant.

LOOK FOR THE POSITIVES


A lot of people are very resistant to actively seeking the positives, but it can completely change your outlook on life. There are positive elements to be found in almost every negative situation, even if it feels like a stretch at times. For example, though I could never paint what happened in a positive light, one of the biggest takeaways from the Manchester attack was how people from all walks of life came together to support those in need. It was a beautiful thing to witness, so if those people can find it in them to create something wonderful from a monstrous situation, then we can definitely find the positives in a missed job opportunity or a rainy day. It’s not always easy, especially if you’re a Negative Nancy like me, but it’s something we should all strive to do.

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